Try this in the mirror.
Say a few words.
Now say them again while smiling.
Notice the difference?
So will everyone else.
For best results, go to a mirror and start talking.
Here is the catch.
I want you to smile while you are talking.
That’s right.
Smile and speak at the same time.
For those too eager or too lazy to engage a mirror, just start speaking out loud wherever you are.
But smile while doing it.
Begin now.
SMILE OR GUILE?
If your mouth feels tight, you may not be doing it naturally yet.
If you feel awkward, that is fine.
If you suspect you look slightly phony, that may simply mean the smile muscles have not been used enough.
Some of us have been so serious for so long that smiling while talking feels like learning a new language.
No problem.
Practice.
THE SMILING CURVE.
There comes a point where the smile no longer needs instruction.
It becomes natural.
Automatic.
Comfortable.
Your mouth, face, eyes, and voice begin working together.
That is when the smile becomes real.
Not forced.
Not fake.
Not salesman-like.
Just pleasant.
Inviting.
Warm.
Human.
NOT EVERYTHING THAT SMILES IS GOLD.
Now, let us be clear.
Not every conversation calls for a smile.
If someone is grieving, do not grin like you just won a prize.
If someone is angry, smiling at the wrong time may make things worse.
If you are correcting someone, the smile must carry kindness, not mockery.
The words and the smile must agree.
A smile should serve the moment.
Not hijack it.
IT WORKS BEST ON AUTO-PILOT.
Mastery happens when you smile and speak without realizing you are doing it.
People feel safer.
The room softens.
Children respond.
Customers relax.
Friends open up.
Strangers become less strange.
A smile is a small door that invites others in.
YOU MAY HAVE SEEN IT ALREADY.
Preschool teachers often do this beautifully.
They speak to children with warmth.
They smile without forcing it.
Parents walk in and feel welcomed.
Children feel safe.
That smile says:
I see you.
You are welcome here.
I am glad you came.
That is powerful communication.
THE HAPPY BIRTHDAY TEST.
Here is conclusive proof.
Try singing Happy Birthday without smiling.
Go ahead.
It feels wrong.
Now sing it while smiling.
There it is.
The whole thing changes.
The face changes.
The voice changes.
The feeling changes.
The room changes.
That little song proves the point.
The smile carries something the words alone cannot.
WHAT THEN?
Practice smiling while speaking.
Not to manipulate.
Not to impress.
Not to sell.
But to become more open, more pleasant, more available, and more human.
A smile costs nothing.
Yet it can change the atmosphere of a room.
It can soften a hard moment.
It can welcome a stranger.
It can encourage a child.
It can bless a tired soul.
Smile and the world may not always smile with you…
But it stands a much better chance.
— Richie
Pearls for the Soul
when you feed the soul, you feed everything.
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