Not every problem disappears.
But every problem offers a next step:
Solve it, manage it, survive it—or ask someone to help you carry it.
Life is miraculous, rewarding, mysterious and filled with built-in adventures.
It cannot always be explained.
It must also be lived and enjoyed.
We were not created merely to exist. As we live, we develop character, virtues, education, judgment and experience.
Correction becomes part of the process.
If we remain open to learning, we should become more capable than we were yesterday.
LIFE CAN BE SUBTLE
Life handles certain changes quietly.
Consider how we move from childhood into our teens, then young adulthood, our twenties, thirties and beyond.
We rarely notice the transition while it is happening.
Then we pause, look back and realize:
It happened.
It is still happening.
The system is amazing.
Our participation in it is amazing too.
LIFE CAN BE BOISTEROUS
Other changes arrive loudly.
We step outside a comfort zone and suddenly find ourselves inside an adventure that requires exploration, adjustment and growth.
We can sometimes turn the personal journey up or down.
Other times, life turns the volume for us.
Each person travels a unique course.
Fantastic, I say—even when the road occasionally disagrees.
THE RULE OF MUSCLES
Muscles respond to appropriate use.
Walking uses them.
Training challenges them.
With exercise, nutrition and recovery, they can become stronger and more capable.
The body responds to what is repeatedly required of it.
But the opposite is also true.
THE RULE OF ATROPHY
When muscles are not used, they may weaken and shrink.
The body is efficient. It adapts to the demands placed upon it.
Certain abilities follow a similar pattern.
Problem-solving.
Patience.
Courage.
Communication.
Responsibility.
If we never use these capacities because someone constantly removes every difficulty, we may not develop the strength required when larger challenges arrive.
SAME WITH LIFE PROBLEMS
Human beings possess a capacity to solve problems, adapt, overcome obstacles and navigate difficulty.
We do not always do this alone.
Friends, family, professionals, faith and community may become part of the solution.
The important thing is to participate.
Ask:
What belongs to me?
What can I do?
What must I learn?
Who can help?
Problem-solving strengthens when practiced—just as a muscle does.
PROBLEM & SOLUTION
We were born into a world containing both problems and possibilities.
Ignoring a manageable problem may allow it to grow.
Engaging it can produce experience, skill and confidence.
This does not mean every problem exists solely to improve us.
Some hardships are unfair, destructive or beyond our control.
Growth is not guaranteed by suffering.
Growth becomes possible through how we respond, what support we receive and what meaning we eventually create.
PRESSURE & TRANSFORMATION
People often say coal becomes a diamond under pressure.
Scientifically, diamonds generally do not form from coal.
But the metaphor still points toward something worth keeping:
Pressure can reveal structure.
Challenge can reveal capacity.
Difficulty can uncover strengths we did not know were available.
Pressure can also crush, injure and overwhelm.
Therefore, the lesson is not to worship hardship.
It is to use appropriate pressure wisely and seek relief when the load becomes harmful.
WORTHY NOTE: A caterpillar becoming a butterfly is not simply improving its old form. It undergoes a complete transformation. Sometimes growth asks us to stop crawling in the familiar way before new movement becomes possible.
THE RIGHT AMOUNT OF CHALLENGE
A useful challenge stretches us without destroying us.
Too little challenge can leave abilities undeveloped.
Too much can overwhelm the system.
The healthy amount differs from person to person and season to season.
Use common sense, intuition, logic and reason.
Ask for assistance before pride turns a challenge into a crisis.
Your portion is not always the problem itself.
Sometimes your portion is the strength, person, resource or wisdom that helps you meet it.
GO TOWARD THE PROBLEM
Human beings naturally attempt to avoid pain and danger.
That instinct protects us.
But avoiding every uncomfortable situation can also prevent necessary growth.
Some problems should be approached.
Some require distance.
Some require professional assistance.
Some require immediate escape.
Wisdom identifies which kind is standing before you.
Going toward the problem does not mean charging blindly.
It means refusing to pretend it is not there.
GROWTH ROBBERY
Parents naturally want to protect their children.
But when adults repeatedly fight battles a child is developmentally capable of handling, the child may lose opportunities to build confidence and judgment.
Balanced guidance protects without unnecessarily replacing the child’s effort.
This is not exclusively a mother’s or father’s role.
Children benefit from caring adults who combine safety, boundaries, encouragement and increasing responsibility.
The goal is not dependence.
The goal is readiness.
WORTHY NOTE: I helped prepare my son to join the Marine Corps and begin his adult journey. My wife understandably worried about her child being in harm’s way. He returned more prepared for life’s responsibilities, and both were proud. Grow, baby, grow.
WHERE WE MAKE LIFE DICEY
When we unnecessarily avoid, postpone or run from manageable problems, they may compound.
Today’s unfinished issue joins tomorrow’s new arrival.
One unpaid bill becomes several.
One avoided conversation becomes a damaged relationship.
One neglected repair becomes a larger expense.
Not every issue can be solved immediately.
But many can be acknowledged immediately.
Name it.
Gather information.
Make a plan.
Take the next workable step.
PAUSE FOR CAUSE
Today’s problem does not always need today’s complete solution.
It does need today’s honest attention.
PEARLS INSIGHT
Resilience is not pretending every problem is small or solvable.
It is the ability to identify what can be changed, accept what cannot presently be changed and continue taking constructive action with appropriate support.
RICHIE SPEAKS
Do not wait for the little problem to rent a building, hire employees and open several branch offices.
Meet it while it still fits in the room.
LOL.
FINAL SAY
Face the problem early.
Keep it as small as possible.
Use your abilities.
Ask questions.
Accept help.
Make the correction before tomorrow adds another layer.
Some problems will be solved.
Some will be managed.
Some must be survived.
Some teach us when to reach for another hand.
Whatever kind appears, begin with the next honest step.
Today’s problem needs today’s attention.
Give it some.
— Richie
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