It is easy to examine everyone else’s conduct.
Harder to examine our own.
Yet that is exactly where wisdom begins.
Did you make a buck…
Or did the buck make you?
There is a difference.
I admire drive.
I admire commitment.
I admire determination.
I admire focus and perseverance.
But not at any cost.
The moment success requires sacrificing honesty, integrity, fairness, or decency, the price has become too high.
You may gain the world and lose something far more valuable in the process.
YOURSELF.
ARE YOUR HANDS DIRTY?
In a court of law there exists a principle called “unclean hands.”
A person may have a valid complaint.
A reasonable argument.
A legitimate position.
Yet if it is discovered that they acted dishonestly, deceptively, or unfairly in the same matter, their credibility suffers.
The court takes notice.
The principle is simple.
You cannot ask for justice while participating in injustice.
Life seems to operate much the same way.
It is difficult to stand firmly upon truth while secretly partnering with deception.
IT IS SUBTLE.
Most people do not wake up one morning and decide to become dishonest.
It rarely begins that way.
Instead it starts small.
A tiny compromise.
A convenient omission.
A harmless exaggeration.
A little white lie.
A shortcut.
A justification.
The conscience notices immediately.
The problem is not the size of the act.
The problem is what the act introduces into your character.
A single compromise asks for another.
And another.
And another.
Until the exception becomes the rule.
THE WAY OF RIGHT.
There is another path.
A quieter path.
A cleaner path.
A path where your conscience is not at war with your conduct.
A path where your words and actions line up.
A path where your private life and public life agree.
When you live this way, something remarkable happens.
You sleep better.
You worry less.
You become harder to intimidate.
The knock on the door doesn’t concern you.
The letter in the mail doesn’t frighten you.
The phone call doesn’t alarm you.
You have nothing to hide.
That is freedom.
THE CONSCIENCE KEEPS SCORE.
Many people believe they escape wrongdoing because no one caught them.
Not so.
Someone always knows.
You.
The conscience records everything.
As I have written before:
The conscience is the sworn protector of the soul.
It nudges.
It warns.
It reminds.
It never truly leaves.
You can ignore it.
You can argue with it.
You can distract yourself from it.
But you cannot eliminate it.
Sooner or later it comes calling.
CHECK YOUR HEART TOO.
Dirty hands begin with a dirty motive.
The act follows the intention.
The fruit follows the root.
Which is why examining the heart matters.
Why are you doing what you are doing?
Why do you want what you want?
What is driving the decision?
Recognition?
Greed?
Fear?
Control?
Vanity?
Or is it service?
Purpose?
Truth?
Love?
Fairness?
The heart tells the story long before the hands perform the action.
THE TREE AND ITS FRUIT.
As I have shared in many Pearls writings:
A tree is known by its fruit.
You are the tree.
Your conduct is the fruit.
Your reputation is the fruit.
Your relationships are the fruit.
Your character is the fruit.
Eventually everyone sees the fruit.
The question is:
What kind of tree produced it?
THE REAL WEALTH.
Some people acquire money and lose peace.
Others acquire status and lose themselves.
Some gain possessions but sacrifice character.
That is a poor bargain.
Real wealth has always been something deeper.
A clear conscience.
A peaceful heart.
A good name.
Honorable conduct.
The respect of those who truly know you.
These things cannot be purchased.
They must be earned.
CHECK-IN.
Today, before examining anyone else’s hands…
Examine your own.
Before judging another person’s motives…
Examine your own.
Look honestly.
Look carefully.
Look courageously.
Then remove whatever does not belong there.
Wash away the resentment.
Remove the deception.
Abandon the shortcut.
Release the compromise.
Return to what is true.
Return to what is right.
Return to what is fair.
Return to what is good.
The world needs more people with clean hands.
But even more than that…
It needs people with clean hearts.
— Richie
Pearls for the Soul
when you feed the soul, you feed everything.
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