WANTING A COMPANION TO GO THROUGH LIFE WITH IS NOT COMPLEX
YOU ARE
Starting out? Starting over? Divorced? Married? Before the heart can safely reveal what it wants, it must first feel secure enough to speak.
MORE THAN 100 QUESTIONS OF THE HEART
In Pearls for Girls: Dating, Waiting & Sex—In Seeking Cupid, Don’t Be Stupid!, there are more than 100 chapters devoted to women-centered subjects that linger in the heart.
These subjects matter to anyone seeking the coveted companionship of another person—for the right reasons.
Women who have read the book wished it had been there for them earlier. Those who are just starting out use it as a source of both what to do and what not to do—a guide toward intimate safety.
STARTING OUT? STARTING OVER?
Starting out?
Starting over?
Divorced?
Married?
How does someone take all that she has experienced and allow the desires of her own heart to come out and safely play?
This must take place, or we lose intimacy—the very core and marrow of what we are seeking.
Often, we know not what we do.
Who wants to admit that?
However, we must.
SAFE AND SECURE
For someone to let go, that person must first feel safe enough to do so.
Desire that stems from the heart drives us every day to live—not merely exist.
In matters of depth and closeness, emotional safety is mandatory.
When handled correctly, the reward can be great.
When handled incorrectly, the pain can be deep and lasting.
A WOMAN’S POINT OF VIEW
Women need room to examine what they desire, what they fear, what they have learned, and what they will no longer accept.
The heart must not be forced open.
It must be given enough safety, honesty, respect, and time to reveal itself.
That is how intimacy becomes something deeper than attraction.
THE MEN’S SECTION
For the boy, male, or man in training, how about seizing the day and the opportunity?
Do this not only for personal satisfaction or fulfillment, but for everyone’s sake.
Dive in and explore the fullness of what awaits, along with how to approach it responsibly.
When Will Men Come Back Again? asks men to examine manhood, purpose, character, and their part in creating the safety that allows intimacy to grow.
CAN I BORROW THAT BOOK?
While one person is reading one book, the other can be reading the other.
Read aloud to one another.
Read privately to yourself.
For the more daring, switch books.
Discover how another point of view can help two people find and secure the intimacy and deep satisfaction available within them both.
POINTS OF VIEW CAN BUILD A BRIDGE
A woman may better understand what a man is being asked to become.
A man may better understand what a woman needs in order to feel safe, respected, and willing to share her heart.
The purpose is not to make one side defeat the other.
The purpose is to understand enough to build a bridge.
STAY OR GO?
No book should make this important decision for you.
However, the right questions can help reveal what is present:
Is there safety?
Is there honesty?
Is there respect?
Is there trust?
Can both people speak and be heard?
Are both willing to do the work?
Sometimes the answer supports staying and rebuilding.
Sometimes the answer reveals that it is time to go.
Either way, the truth deserves an honest hearing.
FINAL THOUGHT
Intimacy cannot be demanded. It develops when two people create enough safety for their hearts to speak honestly—and enough courage to listen to what those hearts reveal.
PEARLS INSIGHT (SEO)
Healthy relationships depend upon emotional safety, honest communication, mutual respect, trust, vulnerability, and understanding. Whether couples stay together, rebuild after conflict, begin again, or separate, wise decisions start with truthful reflection.
PEARLS FROM THE BOOKS
From In Seeking Cupid, Don’t Be Stupid!:
“For one to let go, one must first feel safe enough to do so.”
The companion lesson from When Will Men Come Back Again? is that men must examine their character, purpose, responsibility, and role in establishing that safety.
PEARLS CONNECTION
Women and men may approach relationships from different experiences and points of view.
Instead of treating those differences as weapons, exchange perspectives.
Read.
Listen.
Ask.
Learn.
Understanding another person’s point of view may reveal the bridge that neither person could see alone.
RICHIE SPEAKS
The heart wants to come out and safely play. Give it safety, honesty, respect, and room to speak. Then listen carefully, because what it reveals may tell you whether to stay, rebuild, begin again, or go.
FINAL SAY
Before deciding whether to stay or go, ask whether the relationship makes room for truth.
Safety lets the heart speak.
Respect allows it to be heard.
Wisdom decides what happens next.
— Richie
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