There is an enormous difference between dragging yourself through something because you have to and moving toward it because something inside you genuinely wants to.
One consumes life.
The other brings life with it.
Passion looks good on a human being.
It is living evidence that someone has genuine skin in the game of life.
When you encounter a person being real—speaking from experience, conviction, or genuine interest—it makes you pause and listen. Something within them wants to be heard.
Isn’t that what most people want?
To be heard, understood, and connected?
It begins within you and moves outward from there.
Remove connection, meaning, and purpose from a message, and what remains is a pose with a talking head attached.
SPEECHES DO THIS
Today, a speech, post, podcast, video, sermon, class, or conversation must contain something that connects.
The common denominator is interest.
Is it meaningful?
Is it useful?
Is it alive?
Without substance, communication becomes another distraction. The audience grows bored—and boredom is contagious.
When the speaker does not care, the audience can usually feel it.
YOU CANNOT FORCE THIS
Have you ever sat through a bad movie?
You invested time and money, so you remain seated like a prisoner, counting the minutes until you can escape.
The opposite also happens.
A worthwhile movie can leave you transfixed, involved, and entertained. You may not want it to end—and might even want to see it again.
The difference is not simply production value.
Something connected with you.
It awakened the want to.
BEWARE OF CAPTIVE-AUDIENCE SYNDROME
A captured audience is not automatically an interested audience.
When people are required to attend, their physical presence can create the illusion that they care.
They may not.
A room full of bodies is not necessarily a room full of attention.
This false response can also trap the person speaking. They must continue performing for an audience that is present by requirement rather than desire.
It reminds me of certain high-school classes.
The teacher had to teach.
We had to sit there.
Whether anybody actually wanted to participate was another question. LOL.
YOUR MOUTH AND WHAT COMES OUT
Whatever is alive within you eventually wants to come out—with very few exceptions.
So participate.
Comment. Inquire. Explore. Gather your choices, beliefs, observations, and experiences—and let us see what we have.
Open up and allow something genuine to flow.
Meaningful conversation is not a performance. It is an exchange in which people feel safe enough to bring some truth with them.
HOW PEOPLE OPEN UP
Women have traditionally been more comfortable gathering together and talking things through. Whether every word appears important to an outsider is beside the point. The sharing itself may provide connection and relief.
Women often create permission for other women to come out—and they do.
Many men have been trained to hold back until a shared activity provides an opening.
Fishing trips, hunting, sports gatherings, workshops, the gym, or simply working beside someone can become the setting where guarded thoughts finally appear.
Different doorways—same human need.
Something inside wants expression.
RANDOM VERSUS DELIBERATE
Wanting to do something produces a different experience from having to do it.
Homework is an easy example.
Many students complete it because it is required. Others may enjoy the subject, see how it connects to a career, or simply like finishing what they started.
The task may be identical.
The inner experience is not.
Desire changes the energy brought to the work.
BEING YOURSELF VERSUS COMPLIANCE
These are two different worlds that visit every human being.
Do we risk revealing who we are and enjoy the freedom that follows?
Or do we remain guarded because we fear rejection, criticism, embarrassment, or failure?
Sometimes we cannot fully be ourselves because we previously agreed not to be.
Perhaps we agreed to remain quiet.
Perhaps we learned that belonging required compliance.
Perhaps we became so accustomed to pleasing others that we stopped asking what we genuinely wanted.
Subtle—but powerful.
“COME HERE!”
Those two words can be an invitation or an order.
It depends upon who says them, how they are spoken, and what follows.
When I use them for good, I might say:
“Come willingly—with joy and happiness.”
When I use them as a command, I add one little word:
“Come here—now.”
One invites desire.
The other removes negotiation.
Same destination, entirely different journey.
DESIRE
Desire can be deep or shallow, serious or silly, personal or required.
At its best, desire is something arising from within that you recognize and willingly agree with.
That inner want to is a gift.
You may obey it or ignore it. You may develop it or allow it to weaken.
But genuine desire should not be wasted without first being understood.
There may be something sacred here.
WORK DYNAMICS
What does your mind say when it is time to work?
“Oh, phooey—I have to go.”
Or:
“I cannot wait to get started.”
One condition lacks the want to.
The other contains what I call bliss food.
This difference also appears in friendships, marriages, travel, hobbies, exercise, service, and personal projects.
If the want to has disappeared, do not immediately throw everything away. First ask what happened.
Are you tired?
Unappreciated?
Bored?
Afraid?
Living somebody else’s plan?
Or has the season genuinely ended?
Desire can weaken for a reason. Listen before making it guilty.
PAUSE FOR CAUSE
Not every worthy responsibility will excite you.
Some things must be done because they are right, necessary, or part of a promise you made.
Desire does not eliminate discipline.
It gives discipline somewhere meaningful to go.
Sometimes you begin without wanting to—and the want to arrives after movement begins.
Do not wait for fireworks before taking the first step.
AT ALL TIMES
You are given a day to spend, beginning with the moment you occupy right now.
Week after week, month after month, and year after year, remember that you are participating in a giant life-spending spree.
And there is NO MONEY BACK.
Once life is spent, that portion is gone.
You cannot return last Tuesday for store credit.
You cannot exchange ten wasted years because the experience did not fit.
PEARLS INSIGHT
Desire is not merely wishing.
Real desire supplies attention, energy, and movement. It turns an idea from something you admire into something you are willing to approach.
RICHIE SPEAKS
Pay attention to what repeatedly awakens you.
Notice what makes time disappear, what you willingly practice, what you keep returning to, and what brings something alive in your voice.
Those clues may be pointing toward an undeveloped part of you.
The want to is not always the entire answer—but it is often the beginning of an honest question.
FINAL SAY
Do not spend your whole life being pushed by have to while ignoring every worthy want to placed inside you.
Use discipline when necessary.
Honor responsibility.
But make room for desire, passion, curiosity, connection, and purposeful joy.
You are already spending your life.
The important question is:
Did you get your heart’s desire worth?
— Richie
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