The past loses power the moment we stop feeding it hatred, resentment, fear, and replay. Healing begins when we revisit the pain not as helpless children… but as adults finally prepared to reclaim peace.
(Part 2 — Mature Post)
If we allow past incidents — especially those involving abuse, torment, humiliation, injustice, trauma, or evil — to remain emotionally alive within us, then those episodes continue ruling portions of our lives long after the event itself has ended.
The good news?
We possess the ability to revisit painful chapters when we are finally ready and change the ending internally so they release us once and for all.
The first step?
Stop feeding the darkness with hatred and resentment.
Even if you feel justified…
DON’T.
YOU HAD YOUR TURN
PAINS & SORROWS OF LIFE
An event cannot own your entire life unless you continually surrender your present to its memory.
Yes, the past affects us.
But it was never meant to permanently define us.
Blocking things out, numbing them away, drinking them down, or burying them under distractions only creates temporary silence.
Healing requires something deeper.
Eventually the wound asks to be addressed honestly.
VISITING WITH THE PAST
The revisiting I speak of is not obsessive replaying.
NO.
It is allowing the memory to surface naturally while you calmly observe it from the safety of your present adult self.
Watch the event.
Allow the emotions.
Observe the reactions.
But resist becoming consumed by them again.
Why?
Because this time…
you already know the ending.
And now the ending can change.
WORTHY NOTE
Reality itself becomes part of the healing process.
Truth quietly enters and begins exposing what really happened, who was responsible, what was unfair, and most importantly…
that you survived.
Reality weakens the illusion of permanent helplessness.
Truth works toward freedom.
WE ARE NOT HELPLESS THIS TIME AROUND
Your adult self now stands beside your wounded inner child.
You are no longer trapped there defenseless.
You are now the protector.
The comforter.
The witness.
The survivor.
And together…
you are going to heal.
- Stop hating and resenting. Hatred keeps the wound alive and replaying endlessly.
- God is no myth. Crying out for help works. Release the pain honestly with tears if necessary.
- Mourning for the child you once were is healthy, worthy, and respected.
- Those who committed harmful acts were deeply broken themselves and many eventually suffer under the weight of what they did.
- Sort through blame, denial, confusion, and “what ifs” until closure slowly begins forming.
THE PAST WILL LOSE ITS GRIP
We are not trying to erase history.
We are disarming its power.
When we mourn properly, forgive appropriately, release resentment, and assign the pain where it belongs…
the present moment becomes powerful again.
And suddenly…
the future begins opening too.
The wounded child no longer travels alone.
ALL SUFFER FROM SOMETHING
Childhood wounds.
PTSD.
Trauma.
Loss.
Betrayal.
Addictions.
Injustice.
Violence.
Abandonment.
Despair.
Human suffering appears in countless forms.
Many people quietly wish they could disappear entirely after deep trauma.
Most never say it aloud.
But suffering often whispers those thoughts internally.
IMAGINE THIS
Over time, through honesty, courage, prayer, tears, reflection, healing, and patience…
the past slowly transforms.
Not into something good…
but into something survived.
And what remains is often a deeper, wiser, stronger, more compassionate human being.
WHEN I RAPE COUNSELED
Helping victims was heartbreaking.
But what also stayed with me were the mothers, fathers, siblings, nurses, officers, counselors, and loved ones trying desperately to understand how human beings could hurt one another so deeply.
Often there were no adequate words.
Only tears.
Silence.
Grief.
Exhaustion.
And strangely enough…
that grieving process itself slowly became part of the healing.
TRAUMA LEAVES WHEN IT LEAVES
Healing rarely happens instantly.
People move from being the walking wounded toward eventually saying:
“I will not surrender my life to this anymore.”
Sometimes that takes years.
But it remains the correct direction.
CHRIST CAN RELATE
When I studied the life of Christ more deeply, I eventually understood something powerful:
He suffered publicly for things He never did.
Mocked.
Rejected.
Abused.
Punished unfairly.
And because of that…
He understands suffering intimately.
His story ultimately becomes one of overcoming, restoration, redemption, and victory over darkness itself.
THIS BRIEF LIFE
Whatever amount of time we are given on this earth is sufficient to begin addressing what needs healing.
What remains unknown is how much time any of us possess.
Therefore…
put off nothing.
Seek peace now.
Be courageous now.
Love deeply now.
Forgive wisely now.
And know this clearly:
No sincere suffering is ignored by God.
None of it.
I speak of you.
— Richie
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